The Student Who Knew Too Much
July 2, 2008
This article is for those of you who coach or mentor. Does this sound familiar?
“Can’t I just try to mail or email, do I really have to call”
“I was thinking I could wait to get business cards”
“I wanted to be successful first, before I start to market or network”
Tripping On Mindfulness
June 27, 2008
One of the ironies of mindfulness is that it’s still possible to be forgetful, klutzy, or even distracted while doing our best to pay attention.
Why? We are choosing where to focus and so there are, by necessity, bits of information that aren’t getting the full laser treatment. It’s simply not possible to be mindful of everything all at once.
That’s the beauty of it.
You can shine your mental high beams on, say, fully connecting with every person you talk to today. While being very aware of your interactions with others, you might trip on the edge of the carpet.
Be Specific
June 27, 2008
Are you having a difficult time pinpointing what you want out of life? If I were to ask you to tell me EXACTLY what you want out of life, would you be able to do it?
The answer nine times out of ten will be a resounding, “NO!”
Don’t feel bad if you aren’t clear on what you want out of life. The truth of the matter is most people have no idea what they want or what makes them happy.
Easy Anger Management Skills
June 27, 2008
For the person who is dealing daily with anger problems, it is important to learn skills that will be effective in coping. Below I will cover three skills that may help in this cause. Not all strategies work for all people, so it is necessary to try until you find one that works for you.
*Acupressure. Tapping or rubbing the body achieves this technique. Briskly massaging your body when feeling tense and upset causes an individual’s energy to move around their body, which results in relaxation. It is very difficult to remain angry when your body is relaxed.
The Secret To Intense Focus
June 27, 2008
One of the common elements you see in almost all successful people is focus. They saw what they wanted to achieve and they focused in on it like a laser. Then, when they become famous and we, the common folk, know their name, we are amazed at the focus they have.
Focus will set two people apart who have equal skills.
What I am about to say may appear to be blasphemous to some:
Tiger Woods is not that much more highly skilled than the other top PGA players!
The Art Of Giving
June 27, 2008
In the pursuit of the life we dream of, this journey we are on for
successful living, the focus is usually on figuring out what it is exactly
that we want and then setting ourselves on course for going and getting it.
This is very important: Know what you want to get for your life and then
pursue it.
But there is another aspect of achieving the life you dream of that seems on
the surface to actually be counter-productive to getting the life you want,
yet is imperative to the successful life. It is giving.
Stress Management - How To Avoid The Ruts And Holes Of Life
June 21, 2008
Have you ever noticed how we keep falling into the same holes and ruts in life? We know something doesn’t work and yet we keep doing the same things over and over again.
Have you ever wondered why we do this? And more importantly, how do we stop doing it, how do we stop “digging”? And how do we get out?
As I’ve studied and searched over the years for ways to help people get the changes they want, quickly, gently and effectively, I’ve stumbled across a poem that seems to capture well the process of change.
The Problem With Anger
June 21, 2008
As Christians, we know we need God in every aspect of our lives do we not? We need God to work on us because some of us are so spiritually immature that it is hard to distinguish Christians from non-Christians. Thus, God commands us to do certain things for our own sake – not His. God wants to teach us how to move beyond ourselves to others. God knows we cannot make it to His kingdom until we learn how to sacrifice our needs, our wants, and our desires, for the good of someone else. In other words, until we learn how to love one another, even the unlovable. And, we can never love until we get rid of the anger.
Maintaining Honesty & Integrity
June 21, 2008
For a leader, honesty and integrity are absolutely essential to survival. A lot of business people don’t realize how closely they’re being watched by their subordinates. Remember when you were a kid in grammar school, how you used to sit there staring at your teacher all day? By the end of the school year, you could do a perfect imitation of all your teacher’s mannerisms. You were aware of the slightest nuances in your teacher’s voice - all the little clues that distinguished levels of meaning, that told you the difference between bluff and “now I mean business”.
Moving Pack - An Emotional First Aid Kit
June 21, 2008
From Making the Big Move: how to transform relocation into a creative life transition.
For a wilderness trek, you pack sunscreen, bandages, and insect repellent. When you relocate to a new home or a new job, you face loneliness and upheaval, not alligators or killer mosquitoes.
Here’s what to include in your emotional first aid kit.
Coping phrases for frazzled moments.
“There is time to do whatever I need.”
“I will always have options.”
“No matter what happens, I know I can cope.”
Phone numbers of friends and family who will laugh or cry with you.
