Reach Your Goals - Have a therapeutic meltdown

It’s crunch time: you’re two days behind and the deadline’s looming, your dog just ate your last clean hard copy of that oh-so-vital data and the helpful people at your computer company’s customer service seem to have left the building - while you’re stuck on hold looking at the “blue screen of death.” Time to lose it - constructively.

Reach Your Goals - Create A Nurturing Environment

When your work and living space are cluttered and dirty, when dishes are piled up in the sink or when your wardrobe is uninspiring, energy that you need to meet your goals will be bled out of you like a battery being run down by a forgotten dome light. You need all of the energy you currently have just to run your life, and you need to generate more to reach your goals. Do so by ensuring that your environment doesn’t just meet your needs (organizing, cleaning, maintaining, restocking, etc.) but goes the extra step to ensure that it actually creates energy by anticipating your needs and providing you with a reserve. How? Simple - overcompensation.

Reach Your Goals - Perfect the fine art of the end run

From time to time, the path to your goals is going to run smack into someone else’s version of reality, which they may not be happy to have you “play through.” In these cases, shift your direction of movement off-road and work around, rather than through, the problem. There are two important points to remember when doing an end run:

Win-win is always better than win-lose, even if you have to work harder. Burnt bridges can come back to haunt you later.

Creating your own version of reality, which is non-negotiable, is vital to a successful end run.

Reach Your Goals - Aim For The Impossible

Choose “impossible” goals

When faced with a hard-to-reach goal, your best strategy may be to shoot even higher. Like aiming a punch or a kick “beyond” the target, aiming impossibly high will at least get you where you need to be, and will quite likely create a vacuum-like momentum that will pull you far beyond what you thought possible.

Reach Your Goals - Review & Refine

It’s no use struggling to meet a goal that, by the time you get there, no longer fits in with your life. During obvious stopping spots along the way (say, every 10 lbs on a weight loss goal, or when you’ve saved enough for a down payment as part of a house-ownership goal), take a few days to sit back and really feel how you are reacting to reaching this milestone. Are you excited, chomping at the bit - or nervous, with slight overtones of dread or entrapment?

Success - 5 Powerful Ps

Success. Most people want it and have even experienced a measure of it.

But how to achieve success seems to be the troubling question. What most of us don’t realize is that we already know the keys to success, we just don’t know that we know.

Here’s what I mean. Think of an area of your life in which you have had success and/or something that you are really good at. I’m willing to bet that in this area of success/skill, you have used the five P’s of success: Preparation-Patience-Persistence-Practice-Passion. Read on and see if any of these look familiar to you.

Reach Your Goals- Delegate Your Life

If you’re having problems finding the time or energy to handle your everyday activities, let alone getting to your goal, “hire out” the other stuff in your life to clear up mental and physical energy for the sole purpose of reaching your goal. Assign distractions that don’t require your personal involvement - like dinner-making, house-cleaning, errand-running and phone-and-door duty - to other family members. Do this until you reach your goal (or for as long as is practical, if doing it all at once isn’t), with the understanding that you will reciprocate when it’s their turn.

Create A Truth And Step Into It

There is a saying in self-help circles that states, “Your mind can’t take a joke.” What this means is that whatever you believe to be true is true, at least as far as your mind is concerned. One dramatic example of this is what most people refer to as psychosomatic illnesses. There are many examples of this, such as false pregnancies and allergies that trigger severe, life-threatening reactions when the person believes (incorrectly) they have come into contact with the allergen. On a more psychological note, people who constantly repeat negative beliefs in their mind (I’m too ugly to attract men, my boss hates me, I will never be successful) create a reality where what they think is what they experience, unfortunately reinforcing the very belief that created the problem in the first place.

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